CONFIDENCE IN OUR LIVES AND COACHING

If we start from our beautiful language in which phrases such as “building trust”, “establishing trust”, and “gaining trust” are used, if we create a belief that this feeling, which we cannot measure, see or touch, but which we need in every aspect of our lives, emerges as a result of long efforts, we grow, grow, enlarge…

Just think about what we hear and say about trust throughout our lives;

  • In this era you won’t even trust your father
  • Don’t trust your left eye to your right eye
  • Don’t share your privacy and secret to others.
  • Don’t trust existence, you will fall into tightness

What do we learn by listening to them and saying them…. Oh, don’t be!!!! DO NOT TRUST!!!

Well, let’s not trust anyone. How can we trust ourselves without trusting anyone? Or how will WE be reliable? On the one hand, what we most want and need is to trust ourselves and others and to be reliable.

In fact, like most things in life, this is a simple concept to understand and internalize. As in any case; It’s about what we live, how we interpret what we live, and what we record. Trust; It is one of the most basic needs such as eating and drinking, which is necessary for a person to live and determines the quality of one’s life.

Trust exists in our lives in three different forms;

  • confidence in ourselves
  • to be reliable
  • Confidence we feel in others

The foundations of the coaching process also need to be built on a relationship of trust. The harmony between the coachee and the coach is based on trust, and the whole process’s ability to create positive outcomes depends entirely on it. Creating this environment of trust is primarily Koç’s duty.

So, what should we Professional Coaches do to provide confidence coaching in London? What are the competencies that will provide this confidence?

CURIOUS: As a coach, we should move forward by thinking about the right coaching questions, what could have happened in our client’s life, without losing our curiosity. Because we trust the people who are related to us. As life gets harder, the person begins to hide himself and isolate himself from society. Having someone take care of us also makes us feel safe.

WITHOUT JUDGMENT: We keep ourselves closed to those who approach us with “WHY – WHY – WHY”. The reason we shut ourselves down is because we think we are being judged. Our clients also give the same reactions. As a Coach, we should listen to our clients without judgment and state that we understand the experiences that brought them to this point. To understand does not mean to approve. However, seeing that someone understands you gives you confidence in both him and yourself.

LISTENING: As Professional Coaches, we need to listen deeply to the coachee on the second and third level. While getting the answers to the questions we asked our client out of curiosity, most importantly, we should listen in a way that leaves room for the person, without jumping into the words of the other person. Listening by leaving patience and space will build trust in the person.

MIRRORING: We trust people more like ourselves. We communicate more easily with people who speak at our pace and whose facial expressions, tone and body language are similar to us, and we open ourselves up more easily. The same is true for the client we meet. Therefore, it is an important element for the environment of trust that the coach mirrors the person receiving the coaching.

APPRECIATING: Each of us clings to life with our strengths, but sometimes we either fail to see our own strength or take it for granted among the bars we have created. Recognition and appreciation of our strengths by others creates a feeling of approval and creates trust. Against ourselves and the other person. For this reason, the fact that we recognize and appreciate the strengths of our clients will positively affect the coaching process.

Sincere: It is very important that we are sincere in our communication. It is not possible for us to reflect the feelings that we do not believe in, and it is easily understood that they are not real, and it has a destructive effect before the entire atmosphere of trust is formed. No matter how you communicate…. Please be sincere.

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